When thinking about a conflict that I have recently had with
a family member, two strategies that might help me resolve or better the
communication would be:
-To use more respect in listening to the others person
view. When talking about the 3 r’s, I
sometimes jump to conclusions before listening to what is really meant. More respect would make the situation less
heated.
-I could also get ahead of the situation and offer to
resolve the issue before it is prolonged.
When thinking about the problem, I can try and get ahead of it by
thinking what would make both of us happy.
For me conflict resolution has always been an issue because
I am stubborn and always feel I am right.
This is sometimes hard to admit but it is very true for me. I have learned, as I have grown older this is
not the case. This course so far has
also taught me some ways to make my communications better and therefore not
have so many conflicts in life. How do
some of you cope with conflict in regards to communication?
Dealing with conflict with family is hard! Especially when that person believes they are right and do not focus on what others are trying to tell them. I believe that if you try to placid the situation it may help you. I try to prepare or avoid certain topics with my mother so I do not have a conflict during her visits. Sometimes, this is easier than "battling" with her! Thanks For sharing!
ReplyDeleteHi, Lynette.
ReplyDeleteOh, the beast of family conflict! I know how hard this can be. Unfortunately I've been involved in quite a bit of unproductive conflict with my in-laws. I have tried the strategy of being more respectful of the other person's opinions and needs. I like the second strategy that you listed as well. Even if the other person doesn't agree with the solution that you are offering, they will at least see that you are trying. For the most part, I think that using cooperative strategies would be more beneficial than escapist or challenging strategies when it comes to family conflict.
Hello Lynette,
ReplyDeleteI too find family conflict to be especially hard because with families there are more people affected by the conflict than just the two people involved. Often times, I notice family members know us the best, therefore in times of conflict, they know which 'buttons' to push which makes situations worse. By learning conflict resolution strategies, as well as Nonviolent Communication strategies, hopefully the less time we will find ourselves 'pushing buttons' of the loved ones within our lives and the more time we can spend cherishing the movements we have with them. I wish you the best of luck in applying your new strategies within your own life! :)
I have been taught from early age that I should stand my ground if I am truly passionate about it, but as a professional in the EC field I know that sometimes I should pull back and see if I can approach the conflict differently. As Rebecca stated in her response "pushing buttons" can make situations worse. I am a non confrontational person and will ignore responses just so that I do not have to respond to them. Thanks for sharing!
ReplyDeleteAloha Lynette,
ReplyDeleteI too am a bit stubborn when it comes to conflicts. As I've gotten older I haven't become less suborn I just think differently. I use my stubbornness to my advantage. I listen people into submission to my way of thinking...